Lily Dunn – 4 Lies the Church Taught Me About Sex

I’ve heard people say that growing up as an evangelical meant they never talked about sex. This wasn’t my experience. I grew up in the thick of evangelical purity culture and we talked about sex A LOT. We just spent all of that time talking about how and why NOT to have it.

As someone who waited until I was married to have sex, I was assured that I would be guaranteed an easy and rewarding sex life. When reality turned out to be different, I was disappointed and disillusioned. Only through gradual conversations with other married friends did I realize I wasn’t alone.

I started to wonder if maybe the expectations themselves were wrong. Maybe what I’d been told or inferred about post-marital sex simply wasn’t true.

Here are four of the biggest lies about sex I believed before marriage:

  1. Any and all physical contact is like a gateway drug to sex
  2. If you wait until you are married to have sex, God will reward you with mind-blowing sex and a magical wedding night
  3. Girls don’t care about sex
  4. When you get married, you will immediately be able to fully express yourself sexually without guilt or shame

(If you want to understand what the author means by this, read HERE the entire article.)

And, until then, here is Lily’s conclusion:

If our reason for saving sex until marriage is because we believe it will make sex better or easier for us, we’re not only setting ourselves up for disappointment, but we’re missing the point entirely. Those of us who choose to wait do so because we hold certain beliefs about the sacredness of marriage and about God’s intentions and wishes for humanity, and we honor these regardless of whether they feel easier or harder. In the meantime, we in the evangelical church has a lot of work to do correcting the distorted ways we talk about sex and sexuality, especially to our youth.


Life Lessons from Bishop John: Men, Is Your Vice Wealth, Power or Sex? | Musings of a Hardlining Moderate

Life Lessons from Bishop John: Men, Is Your Vice Wealth, Power or Sex? | Musings of a Hardlining Moderate.

This could not be more true.

Heaven Apologizes for Sex

Titian – Adam & Eve

Dissociated Press

HEAVEN – Enough complaints have reached Heaven regarding the Almighty’s restrictions on human sexual relations and the corresponding anatomical complementarity of male and female that Heaven has decided to offer humankind a solution, Press Secretary Archangel Gabriel said.

The offered solution has two parts.  First, all prohibitions of sexual promiscuity and perversion will be removed from the Bible and replaced with nice, flesh-affirming, humanistic reflections and quotes from Oprah.  Second, the two-gender system in nature will be reduced to one gender, which will be named androgyn.

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