Friedman’s Theory of Differentiated Leadership Made Simple

Dr. Jonathan Camp discusses the book A Failure of Nerve by Edwin Friedman, who owes many of his ideas of leadership to Murray Bowen (1913-1990), a pioneer of family therapy. Central to Bowen’s family systems theory is the concept of differentiation, or the ability of a person to maintain a strong sense of “self” within the family. The anxious family system is composed of emotional triangles, in which two conflicting members try to diffuse the anxiety between them by bringing in a third member. But this only heightens the anxiety of the system. A well-differentiated person is able to resist the lure of emotional triangles, which causes the family system to mature by influencing others to take responsibility for themselves. In A Failure of Nerve, Friedman applies Bowen’s family systems theory to organizational leadership.

Simon Sinek – Why Leaders Eat Last

In this in-depth talk, ethnographer and leadership expert Simon Sinek reveals the hidden dynamics that inspire leadership and trust. In biological terms, leaders get the first pick of food and other spoils, but at a cost. When danger is present, the group expects the leader to mitigate all threats even at the expense of their personal well-being. Understanding this deep-seated expectation is the key difference between someone who is just an “authority” versus a true “leader.” Continue reading “Simon Sinek – Why Leaders Eat Last”

Meghan Biro – Leadership Is About Emotion

My friend and colleague Mihai Pavel pointed me today to a very good article in Forbes on what are the ingredients of a great leader. And, to the surprise of most ‘leaders’ around, this in NOT about control, but, rather, about emotions. Here is what Meghan says:

Make a list of the 5 leaders you most admire. They can be from business, social media, politics, technology, the sciences, any field. Now ask yourself why you admire them. The chances are high that your admiration is based on more than their accomplishments, impressive as those may be. I’ll bet that everyone on your list reaches you on an emotional level.

The ability to reach people in a way that transcends the intellectual and rational is the mark of a great leader.

Then the author make a list of the necessary ingredients. She calls them ‘tools that allow for talent to shine’. They are as follows: Continue reading “Meghan Biro – Leadership Is About Emotion”

The Things That Take Leaders Down

The Things That Take Leaders Down.

Don’t you love Rachel Held Evans? I do, unreservedly.

Here is her latest blog post, in which she discusses the things that usually take leaders down.

Carson Clark on Seven Leadership Styles – Updated with poll

My virtual friend Carson Clark presents in his latest blog post his view on seven leadership styles. They are:

1. The Boss

2. The Politician

3. The Revolutionary

4. The ‘Cornerist’

5. The Mediator

6. The Doer

7. The Prophet

Find HERE how he defines them. Continue reading “Carson Clark on Seven Leadership Styles – Updated with poll”

Leadership Training That Works

In yesterday’s blog post we expressed doubts about the effectiveness of the contemporary obsession with leadership training.

Yet, there is hope in this field, and it can be found in the way in Christ Jesus himself formed his disciples.

This is the topic of Geoff’s second post. Here are the first three lessons he finds in the ministry of Jesus.

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  • Jesus spent time observing potential leaders
    He spent time interacting with potential leaders in a variety of situations before tapping them for further development
  • Jesus hand-picked his leaders
    No one self-selected into his group. Anyone could follow Jesus, but his inner circle was by invitation only
  • Jesus taught leadership along the way
    Rather than classrooms, books and exercises Jesus used birds and lilies and farms to teach leadership. Leadership development was a natural outgrowth of hanging out together.

Find the rest of them HERE.



Leadership Training Doesn’t Work

Have you ever been involved in  a (Christian) leadership training seminar? I think many of you did. There is a real obsession in some church circles, as in various companies, particularly not-for-profit ones, for leadership training programmes.

Have you ever wondered why this programmes never actually work and, in fact, we have less leaders at the end of the process that we have without these gimmicks? Maybe the problem is that everybody wants to be a leader (much more ‘sexy, isn’t it?) but nobody really want to be a follower.

Geoff Surratt is trying an answer to this problem. Here it is.

Geoff Surratt lives in Denver, Colorado with his wife Sherry. Sherry is the CEO of MOPS International. Geoff and Sherry have two awesome kids (Mike and Brittainy), a wonderful daughter-in-law (Hilary) and the most beautiful grand daughter on earth (Maggie Claire) Geoff has served on staff at Seacoast Church and Saddleback Church. He is now a freelance Church Catalyst and Encourager. Continue reading “Leadership Training Doesn’t Work”

Four Fatal Fears of Leaders

Cheryl Leitschuk presents in a very good short article four fundamental fears that may sing any leader.

Here they are:

I fear failure; therefore, I need to succeed.

I fear being wrong; therefore, I must be right. Continue reading “Four Fatal Fears of Leaders”

The Trinity Forum

The Trinity Forum is a leadership academy that works to cultivate networks of leaders whose integrity and vision will help renew culture and promote human freedom and flourishing. Our programs and publications offer contexts for leaders to consider together the big ideas that have shaped Western civilization and the faith that has animated its highest achievements.

Since our founding in 1991, we have facilitated seminars, discussions, retreats, and lectures for thousands of leaders in North America, Europe, and Asia. These events feature opportunities for participation in profound reflection and candid conversation about life’s most important issues. Continue reading “The Trinity Forum”

Leadership vs. Followership

There is an obsession with leadership in the present world.
This short video argues that followership is more important than that, a lesson that Christians still have a hard time learning.
(Thanks to my friend Chris Heuertz for this.)

On prophetic leadership

‘Prophetic leadership’ isn’t an idle phrase

By Amy Butler    
Thursday, July 01, 2010 

Seems like everybody likes to use the phrase “prophetic leadership” when it comes to the church. It sounds deeply theological and also a little daring, don’t you think?

Pastor search committees have a tendency to use the phrase early on in their work (then inevitably use the phrase “be careful what you wish for” very soon after), and pastors especially have a bad habit of bandying the phrase about in their efforts to impress each other. Continue reading “On prophetic leadership”

From Bondage to the Desert – How to Prepare for Freedom – 5

5. The Centrality of Leadership Training

The people of God have always been in need of godly and able leaders. The apostle Paul tell us that after the Lord had been exalted to heaven and had sent the Holy Spirit, he ‘gave gifts to the church’ (Eph. 4:10–11) for the building up of the body of Christ. These gifts come principally in the form of spiritual endowments (Gk. charismata) in response to the current needs of the church, but they are also represented by spiritually endowed leaders: apostles, prophets, evangelists, pastor-teachers, etc. Continue reading “From Bondage to the Desert – How to Prepare for Freedom – 5”