Christian Women and Porn – Update

Dear sisters in Christ,

Quit your porn. I’m not talking about nude pictures, i.e. the kind of porn we males have more issues with. I’m talking about emotional porn. Your stupid Twilight vampires, your Nicholas Sparks fantasies, your Brad Pitts and Johnny Depps. Quit fantasizing about them.

What’s wrong with a little harmless fiction, you say? And how dare I equate it to the abomination to intimacy that is porn? Simple: it serves the same function as porn. You’re thinking guys just look at porn because they’re “perverted.” Well, sure. But what’s the perversion? It’s a twisted cry for intimacy–a shallow, selfish expression of a deep longing for a closeness that’s too difficult to attain in real life.

Like Johnny Depp? Me too. But do you know his birthday? His history of relationships? Do you jokingly refer to him as your husband? Do you fantasize about him riding up on his white horse and whisking you away to his mansion? Read on…

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The women’s blog of Christianity Today called her.meneutics published a few days ago an interesting article on women sex addiction, which, obviously, is not an oxymoron, as some of us might be tempted to think. Its is based on a new book on this topic, by Marnie Ferree called No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction. Really worth reading.

Author: DanutM

Anglican theologian. Former Director for Faith and Development Middle East and Eastern Europe Region of World Vision International

18 thoughts on “Christian Women and Porn – Update”

  1. Nu mai departe de zilele trecute m-am gandit (iar si iar) la motivatia pentru care femeilor le plac serialele Acasa TV. Inclusiv celor evanghelice, trebuie sa recunoastem. Este pe acolo ceva similar descrierii de mai sus? Isi implinesc cu surogate nevoi emotionale mai mult sau mai putin reale? Nu-mi amintesc ca sa fi scris despre asta de catre NICI UN blogger si mai ales lady blogger evanghelica. Iar blogosfera evanghelica romaneasca produce peste 100 de postari pe zi.

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    1. Iata de ce Blackbird Press este un blog care merita sa fie citit din cind in cind. Autorii au curajul de a spune pe sleau lucruri care sunt cel mai adesea neglijate sau trecute cu vederea in mod intentionat, pentru ca dor prea mult.
      Pe de o parte, vina pentru asta o poarta in parte barbatii, prin quasi-absenta dimensiunii romantice in viata de cuplu. Vina finala insa este intotdeauna a faptuitorului.

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  2. ginditi-va cind ati auzit in vreo biserica o predica tare pe un subiect tare cum e sexul. in afara unui martzofoi de pastor informator al securitatii ce a predicat nu-ş cîte luni din cintarea cintarilor in anii 70 nu stiu pe nimeni. dar s-ar putea sa ma insel.

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  3. Aici ma simt si eu prins cu ocaua mica: am urmarit duminica o juma de ora din Hollyoaks. Sau era Eastenders? De Porn nu am auzit 🙂 O fi un serial mai nou?

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    1. A propos, Sam, am sperat sa te vad in drumul asta, dar n-am ajuns prin Londra. Voi fi insa acolo prin iulie, a doua parte. Poate gasim o seara sa mergem inpreuna la un pub.

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      1. Daca nu te arati la intilnire, va trebui sa ne rezumam la ceea ce numesc uneori, in termeni perihoretici, ‘kidney fellowship’ 🙂

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  4. Here is, kind of like in the same vein, a stupid comment from a religious fundamentalist (a Muslim this time):
    “Many women who do not dress modestly … lead young men astray, corrupt their chastity and spread adultery in society, which (consequently) increases earthquakes,” Hojatoleslam Kazem Sedighi was quoted as saying by Iranian media. Sedighi is Tehran’s acting Friday prayer leader. (Source of the quote, HERE.)

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    1. Pentru mine e uimitor cat de multi barbati pe care ii cunosc considera ca femeia poarte in intregime vina pentru poftele cu care se lupta barbatii: de la oameni cu patru clase pana la pastori, circula acest mit sexist. Se uita de traficul de carne vie, de “pesti”, de sotii aceia nenorociti care isi trimit sotiile si fiicele sa se prostitueze in timp ce ei butoneaza toata ziua la telecomanda … Unele dintre aceste lucruri sunt foarte dureroase; apogeul este insa atins tocmai de astfel de remarci nesimtite, eschive copilaresti si pline de mandrie fariseica. Domnul nostru Isus Christos a vazut in alta parte problema … nu in femeia ce trece prin fata mea ci acolo adanc in inima …

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  5. tocmai ieri am discutat cu un prieten sfaturile date de ‘tineret’ de un pastor baptist, om normal de altfel, cum ca daca te masturbezi orbesti. Avea el niste ochelari cam grosi si el… 🙂

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  6. Sexul si multe alte lucruri foarte importante sunt evitate de “pastorii si povatuitorii” turmelor.
    Am auzit des despre curvie ca ar fi un pacat de moarte, ca fiul risipitor ar fi primit cumva, nu stiu cum, dar nu are mantuire ca si-a risipit averea,iar divotul ii trimite direct in iad pe bietii insingurati… fara discutii…….(matei 19:9…pricina)
    Spunem doar ceea ce nu supara pe cei ce nu citesc Biblia si sunt tarreee bisericosi caci altfel…..chist!(onomatopee care alunga cainii)

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